I am not a particularly religious person, in fact if one searches the web I have been called the "Devil Incarnate" by sex offenders and Or their advocates. The "Daily Strength" is especially gifted at posting this observation of me.
Once the conversation deteriorates, my spelling errors are pointed out and my arrest record for "Standing My Ground" is posted and ultimately just before I am banned "oh my", Here are a couple of common themes and quotes that are posted:
""Do not judge others, and you will not be judged."
""Judge not, that ye be not judged""
In my many many years of observing these abhorrent crimes and the people who commit them, the one common denominator always comes down to either "judgement or Forgiveness" and if it is not "forthcoming fast enough? You can take to the bank the above quotes and smell the seething of "righteousness" permeating from sex offenders towards those (like me) who have NO tolerance for their whining. Well as I was channel surfing the other nite ( I wont call it an epiphany) but something did catch my attention and I lingered to listen.
Continued:
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Sunday, September 23, 2012
More words of Wisdom from Daily Strength
One post indicated from the resident (pretend voodoo) doctor that they hoped I was reading their post. How can you not? Its like a train wreck you cant take your eyes off of.
The title of the forum was "for those married to child molesters"
Mystified123 wrote a very prolific expose' that left me "high fiving" her in relevation about relationships. In this post she sounded healthy and grounded. the link is http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/families-of-sex-offenders/discussions/messages/14970507
Needless to say the comments degenerated by these examples:
Mamabear: I dont believe this is a healthy post. It may cause someone to second guess themselves. In a marriage you shouldnt have the option to run for the hills! Now of course when sexual offens comes into play it is def a valid reason but no one sin is worse than another. (keeping in mind) they are talking about married to those who are (CHILD MOLESTORS).
Honest witness: post was especially disturbing with the ". I am the former spouse of the man who molested two of my children. I am still connected to him through our children and "all the good things we had". But I am so glad I am not married to him any more. Interestingly, now that my children are adults, the same two that were molested are "convicted sex offenders themselves".( now keep in mind I had my ass handed to me for intruding on their site and bringing up the fact the Government Grant VAWA was a mismanaged and under utilized) program that in premise should be aimed at (helping the abused) and yet no one on this forum knew about it.
Continued: Believe me it gets worse:
The title of the forum was "for those married to child molesters"
Mystified123 wrote a very prolific expose' that left me "high fiving" her in relevation about relationships. In this post she sounded healthy and grounded. the link is http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/families-of-sex-offenders/discussions/messages/14970507
Needless to say the comments degenerated by these examples:
Mamabear: I dont believe this is a healthy post. It may cause someone to second guess themselves. In a marriage you shouldnt have the option to run for the hills! Now of course when sexual offens comes into play it is def a valid reason but no one sin is worse than another. (keeping in mind) they are talking about married to those who are (CHILD MOLESTORS).
Honest witness: post was especially disturbing with the ". I am the former spouse of the man who molested two of my children. I am still connected to him through our children and "all the good things we had". But I am so glad I am not married to him any more. Interestingly, now that my children are adults, the same two that were molested are "convicted sex offenders themselves".( now keep in mind I had my ass handed to me for intruding on their site and bringing up the fact the Government Grant VAWA was a mismanaged and under utilized) program that in premise should be aimed at (helping the abused) and yet no one on this forum knew about it.
Continued: Believe me it gets worse:
Friday, September 14, 2012
Federal agents arrest immigrant sex offenders living in North Texas
Federal agents arrest immigrant sex offenders living in North Texas
all I can say is we are way past rounding these freaks up..
all I can say is we are way past rounding these freaks up..
Thursday, September 13, 2012
Words of Wisdom from Derek Logue
Oncefallen, Fallenone and a myriad of other screen names after being banned
"Healing is not profitable. And if you keep people in perpetual victimhood, you not only justify your hatred, you keep your victim industry afloat."
What numb-nuts "sexual predator who the State of Ohio deems most likely to re-offend really is saying is "If forgiveness for my crime isnt as forthcoming and as fast I think it should be and the offense against your loved one or yourself isnt forgotten fast enough than "victim" becomes a dirty word to him.
How a site who deals with the pain of those who are living with and coping with these crimes allows someone like Derek to be a member is beyond me. Derek is the textbook offender. He has no remorse for his crimes due to the fact he profiles his victim as a "slut". He started a petition online about some such rediculous thing and what many people may not have read was his "victim" commented on it. In as few words as the site would allow her to comment, she in no uncertain terms made it quite clear that his version he tells the world on any forum he can land on is not true and in her world he was suppose to be the "adult" and she was only a child. She is older now but Derek himself keeps her in perpetual "victimhood" by his ongoing rants and lies about his conviction and the circumstances of the event. How a forum can welcome him as a member is ludicrous. Derek Logue is every definition of the perpetrator these families are looking to heal from. He latches onto women (never men) unless they are as dysfunctional as he is to gain acceptance for his crime, he thinks women who "bite the bullet" and stand by their sex offenders will be a more vulnerable audience for his tyrades. All the while he is the very definition of the guy who tore their world apart. Derek Logue for those who do not know is a member of "visions Of Alice" website. For those who do not know this site its members are comprised of men who like to have sex with pre-teen girls down to toddlers. He petitiones on these sites for money to travel to various functions to "reform sex offender laws" . Make no mistake, Derek Logue hates adult women, he is most hateful to those women who find his crime abhorrant. For any group to align themselves with Derek Logue aka Oncefallen, Fallendown, etc. is a group who will bever be taken seriously.
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Thank You to Daily Strength for the Traffic
I appreciate your link to my blog .."unlike yours" you wont fund much "fluff" or psycho-babble surrounding this issue by members "Pretending" to be mental health experts (TrustingtheMystery) and rather than linking to cyber bullying, you might want to check out the "practicing medicine without a license" link in your respective states..
Dont panic If I dont post your comments as timely as you think I should, or insinuate that your statement is a "win" if it doesnt appear the moment you click send. This is my blog, I "rule" what is posted here and control the comments. I am still very generous with opposing viewpoints as you can see with my tolerance of "Fallenandcantgetup" Derek. He has been on a time out lately due to his favorite usage of the term "Cunt" in his daily rants. I get an average of 10 comments every two days by Derek, blustering about his ability to circumvent the system, his bragging rights he will go for a "stroll" on the nearby college campus, and his never ending self pat on the back when he thinks he has done damage to another Anti. How silly of me, to describe One of Daily Strengths most "coveted members" must seem redundant. But I digress, feel free to hang around..
Dont panic If I dont post your comments as timely as you think I should, or insinuate that your statement is a "win" if it doesnt appear the moment you click send. This is my blog, I "rule" what is posted here and control the comments. I am still very generous with opposing viewpoints as you can see with my tolerance of "Fallenandcantgetup" Derek. He has been on a time out lately due to his favorite usage of the term "Cunt" in his daily rants. I get an average of 10 comments every two days by Derek, blustering about his ability to circumvent the system, his bragging rights he will go for a "stroll" on the nearby college campus, and his never ending self pat on the back when he thinks he has done damage to another Anti. How silly of me, to describe One of Daily Strengths most "coveted members" must seem redundant. But I digress, feel free to hang around..
Sunday, September 9, 2012
another are you friggin kidding me post
Thoughtofasweak wrote:
I too am in the same boat - my husband has been in my daughter's life since she was the age of 2, and was molesting her for 4 years until I found out about it in May. My daughter will be 16 next month.
This is a difficult situation you are going through, but only you can make the decision of staying with your husband or leaving him. No one else can make that decision. Only you can determine if he is truely repentant and wants to seek help, or if he is playing you. Visit him, talk with him - try to get a true since of his remorse.
I disagree with those who said that you will send the wrong message if you decide to forgive him and give him a chance to prove himself. My daughter knows that I fully support her, and I advocate on her behalf - what she wants. She knows that my first priority is her. She has also come to forgive the only father in her life and she sees the changes in my husband. She is willing to allow him to prove himself (just not living with us).
MY OPINION____This broad isnt "weak" she is "Brain-dead" and a HUGE embarrassment to other women.
These posters dont realize it, but the common denominator among them? Most have been fractured by the Men in their lives and rather than making adult decisions that may be the hardest thing they will ever confront? They leave it to prayer and of course the other fractured members who influence them in negative innuendos and the need to daily correspond with others who will validate their fractured lives and the miserable decisions they have made. They feed off each other and call themselves a support group. You wont find much healthy support here. And of course Derek Logue is high profile and has found his nest with these women who do nothing but validate his pathetic need to be embraced by the very segment of society he violated against. The fact these women dont have their own registry is amazing to me.
I too am in the same boat - my husband has been in my daughter's life since she was the age of 2, and was molesting her for 4 years until I found out about it in May. My daughter will be 16 next month.
This is a difficult situation you are going through, but only you can make the decision of staying with your husband or leaving him. No one else can make that decision. Only you can determine if he is truely repentant and wants to seek help, or if he is playing you. Visit him, talk with him - try to get a true since of his remorse.
I disagree with those who said that you will send the wrong message if you decide to forgive him and give him a chance to prove himself. My daughter knows that I fully support her, and I advocate on her behalf - what she wants. She knows that my first priority is her. She has also come to forgive the only father in her life and she sees the changes in my husband. She is willing to allow him to prove himself (just not living with us).
MY OPINION____This broad isnt "weak" she is "Brain-dead" and a HUGE embarrassment to other women.
These posters dont realize it, but the common denominator among them? Most have been fractured by the Men in their lives and rather than making adult decisions that may be the hardest thing they will ever confront? They leave it to prayer and of course the other fractured members who influence them in negative innuendos and the need to daily correspond with others who will validate their fractured lives and the miserable decisions they have made. They feed off each other and call themselves a support group. You wont find much healthy support here. And of course Derek Logue is high profile and has found his nest with these women who do nothing but validate his pathetic need to be embraced by the very segment of society he violated against. The fact these women dont have their own registry is amazing to me.
another tale of woe and a perfect RSOL mindset
Now this one is very telling of the mindsets of women who are involved with sex offenders and are some of the loudest voices in RSOL. If you dont think this one is fucked up then nothing will shock you?
Hcjfctc is a very vocal RSOL voice around the web: Out of her mouth and onto the web we have this in response to Mystified123:
and I quote from her stupid mouth : ""That is a tough situation. My husband touched a neighbor girl, so I understand your confusion and uncertainty. However, I honestly believe if it had been our daughter, I'd be gone. I couldn't do that to her. (She may not have realized it but what she said was its ok to abuse someone else's child that can be forgiven and I am willing to "stand by my man" as long as it was another familes child who was sexually abused..
Claire53- chimed in with "What a terribly complex and difficult experience for all concerned. The good news is, your daughter is not a little girl. She is a young woman, and, I assume, looks like a young woman"
What does that mean Claire? Why include that in a response? Does her maturity aspect give a pass to the "stepfather"? sure sounds like it..
and of course while Mystified doesnt realize it she has officially folded with "I don't know if my daughter will ever come to the point of being able to give him another chance. I am afraid, if I choose him one day in the future she will resent me. I have decided to lay it all down and just focus on taking care of myself, my children and get through my graduate program. I asked him to leave us some space for a while so that I could heal. He will keep in touch through skype, email and telephone while seeking out a 12 step program for SA and a ministry that can help sort his own stuff out.
Another family bites the dust under the "guise" of I will blame it on addiction and not the pure truth that my husband isnt worth the ink to write his name, but rather than admitting I made a poor choice in a life partner I'll stick it out and leave it in GODS hands..(that way I can play martyr while throwing my daughter under the bus) and round and round we go..
Hcjfctc is a very vocal RSOL voice around the web: Out of her mouth and onto the web we have this in response to Mystified123:
and I quote from her stupid mouth : ""That is a tough situation. My husband touched a neighbor girl, so I understand your confusion and uncertainty. However, I honestly believe if it had been our daughter, I'd be gone. I couldn't do that to her. (She may not have realized it but what she said was its ok to abuse someone else's child that can be forgiven and I am willing to "stand by my man" as long as it was another familes child who was sexually abused..
Claire53- chimed in with "What a terribly complex and difficult experience for all concerned. The good news is, your daughter is not a little girl. She is a young woman, and, I assume, looks like a young woman"
What does that mean Claire? Why include that in a response? Does her maturity aspect give a pass to the "stepfather"? sure sounds like it..
and of course while Mystified doesnt realize it she has officially folded with "I don't know if my daughter will ever come to the point of being able to give him another chance. I am afraid, if I choose him one day in the future she will resent me. I have decided to lay it all down and just focus on taking care of myself, my children and get through my graduate program. I asked him to leave us some space for a while so that I could heal. He will keep in touch through skype, email and telephone while seeking out a 12 step program for SA and a ministry that can help sort his own stuff out.
Another family bites the dust under the "guise" of I will blame it on addiction and not the pure truth that my husband isnt worth the ink to write his name, but rather than admitting I made a poor choice in a life partner I'll stick it out and leave it in GODS hands..(that way I can play martyr while throwing my daughter under the bus) and round and round we go..
and even more dysfunction
Mystified 123 wrote: torn between divorce or reconciliationPosted on 09/04/12, 12:07 pm
1)My husband about 2 months ago molested my daughter of 15 by touching her inappropriately while I was at work. I called the cops and had him arrested. He had raised her since she was 3 years old so I see it as extremely sick that he do such a thing. He tells me that he is repentant now and wants to get help. He says the reason he believes he did such a thing was has become addicted to porn and drank alcohol on the night of the offense. (ahh the I got drunk and watched porn and went after anything with a warm body excuse) always a favorite?? The bottom line is after much back and forth by various members she is folding like a cheap suit and throwing her daughter under the bus with this last comment, "He tells me that he is repentant now and wants to get help. He says the reason he believes he did such a thing was has become addicted to porn and drank alcohol on the night of the offense. He has asked that I wait for him to go through treatment and change to prove that he is different."" MY OBSERVATION? Financially she is between a rock and a hard place and as many women in this group I have observed many of their opinions are centered on that aspect. Too bad they arent realizing these guys are gonna cost them so much more than the rent money.. the other question is where was she while his addiction to porn was growing? How good of a provider and husband could he have been prior to the incident while feeding a porn and alcohol addictions? My recommendation? Mystified should stand back and consider herself lucky by ridding herself of this Not so BlueRibbon example of breeding stock.
1)My husband about 2 months ago molested my daughter of 15 by touching her inappropriately while I was at work. I called the cops and had him arrested. He had raised her since she was 3 years old so I see it as extremely sick that he do such a thing. He tells me that he is repentant now and wants to get help. He says the reason he believes he did such a thing was has become addicted to porn and drank alcohol on the night of the offense. (ahh the I got drunk and watched porn and went after anything with a warm body excuse) always a favorite?? The bottom line is after much back and forth by various members she is folding like a cheap suit and throwing her daughter under the bus with this last comment, "He tells me that he is repentant now and wants to get help. He says the reason he believes he did such a thing was has become addicted to porn and drank alcohol on the night of the offense. He has asked that I wait for him to go through treatment and change to prove that he is different."" MY OBSERVATION? Financially she is between a rock and a hard place and as many women in this group I have observed many of their opinions are centered on that aspect. Too bad they arent realizing these guys are gonna cost them so much more than the rent money.. the other question is where was she while his addiction to porn was growing? How good of a provider and husband could he have been prior to the incident while feeding a porn and alcohol addictions? My recommendation? Mystified should stand back and consider herself lucky by ridding herself of this Not so BlueRibbon example of breeding stock.
another interesting day on the web
I ran across a website the other day and needless to say it validates my theories on the WOMEN who choose offenders over their own and or their childrens self preservation. An casual observer of these women and their post will find themselves shaking their head and asking themselves "what can they possibly be thinking"?
1) Cantbemylife wrote: The girl he had an affair with has major mommy/daddy issues and he said that she kept persuing him. He says she does not look or act 15yo and yes she does look older. He is having a hard time managing all of these things he is supposed to be doing like spending time with the kids and me and the counselor and lawyer. (She mentions she has three children) An "affair" means her husband repeatedly tapped this 15 year old on muliple occations but its inferred he was oblivious to her age, or he was just tapping what was there for the taking either way? He threw his wife and children under the bus for an underage girl who has now become the pariah and he the victim??
2) Amymesa responded: I came to the conclusion that the 15 yr old girl MUST have serious mom/dad issues, probably doesnt really know her dad and mom probably gets high..i knew so many girls like that growing up. And they did in fact do things like have sex with older married men. Im sure im going to get plenty of shit for this, but if this girl is anything like the white trash (sorry if that offends anyone, but its true) that I went to school with, than sorry, the only person she is a victim of is herself.
Then the "group" goes on to offer advice to the woman to look for signs of remorse?? I'll bet he has plenty after that introduction to the judge and that "come to Jesus moment" and realizing that the "wife" is going to be the only one sending money to the commissary. Not the 15 year old. This group is encouraging her to stick it out with the freak, "misery really does love Company" ..
1) Cantbemylife wrote: The girl he had an affair with has major mommy/daddy issues and he said that she kept persuing him. He says she does not look or act 15yo and yes she does look older. He is having a hard time managing all of these things he is supposed to be doing like spending time with the kids and me and the counselor and lawyer. (She mentions she has three children) An "affair" means her husband repeatedly tapped this 15 year old on muliple occations but its inferred he was oblivious to her age, or he was just tapping what was there for the taking either way? He threw his wife and children under the bus for an underage girl who has now become the pariah and he the victim??
2) Amymesa responded: I came to the conclusion that the 15 yr old girl MUST have serious mom/dad issues, probably doesnt really know her dad and mom probably gets high..i knew so many girls like that growing up. And they did in fact do things like have sex with older married men. Im sure im going to get plenty of shit for this, but if this girl is anything like the white trash (sorry if that offends anyone, but its true) that I went to school with, than sorry, the only person she is a victim of is herself.
Then the "group" goes on to offer advice to the woman to look for signs of remorse?? I'll bet he has plenty after that introduction to the judge and that "come to Jesus moment" and realizing that the "wife" is going to be the only one sending money to the commissary. Not the 15 year old. This group is encouraging her to stick it out with the freak, "misery really does love Company" ..
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