I too am in the same boat - my husband has been in my daughter's life since she was the age of 2, and was molesting her for 4 years until I found out about it in May. My daughter will be 16 next month.
This is a difficult situation you are going through, but only you can make the decision of staying with your husband or leaving him. No one else can make that decision. Only you can determine if he is truely repentant and wants to seek help, or if he is playing you. Visit him, talk with him - try to get a true since of his remorse.
I disagree with those who said that you will send the wrong message if you decide to forgive him and give him a chance to prove himself. My daughter knows that I fully support her, and I advocate on her behalf - what she wants. She knows that my first priority is her. She has also come to forgive the only father in her life and she sees the changes in my husband. She is willing to allow him to prove himself (just not living with us).
MY OPINION____This broad isnt "weak" she is "Brain-dead" and a HUGE embarrassment to other women.
These posters dont realize it, but the common denominator among them? Most have been fractured by the Men in their lives and rather than making adult decisions that may be the hardest thing they will ever confront? They leave it to prayer and of course the other fractured members who influence them in negative innuendos and the need to daily correspond with others who will validate their fractured lives and the miserable decisions they have made. They feed off each other and call themselves a support group. You wont find much healthy support here. And of course Derek Logue is high profile and has found his nest with these women who do nothing but validate his pathetic need to be embraced by the very segment of society he violated against. The fact these women dont have their own registry is amazing to me.