Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Do I tell my kids friends parents that my husband is a SO?

"""alwaysbyhisside" ask," My husband had to register this week and is not on probation. We have two girls ages 14 & 11 who live with us. I am wondering do we go and tell their friends parents that he is on the registry (his offense happened in 1990 when he was 18) ? My husband says that we just keep kids friends out of the house and have the girls do activities outside the home with friends; but a part if me wants to just get it out in the open and tell the parents that way if they search the site and find my husband on it they won't have any questions and won't assume that he is some kid of monster. Any advice would help." It's rather amazing that this woman actually had to ask this question. Since I am Banned from this site (families of sex offenders) I'll offer up my two cents here. If I was the parent of one of her children's friends and I was not made aware of his status? All hell would reign down. All too often I have read comments from this dysfunctional group that if the "neighbors were so concerned, they could find him on the registry" which in their screwed up minds alleviates them from all liability?? Of course on the other hand the registry in their screwed up minds "tells the world" of their status and should be abolished?? Typical, the registry is the "holy grail" when these misfits dont want to own up to their criminal convictions, buts its the "list from hell" on other days.

another gotta "shake your head moment"

Never seems to fail when one "slums" over to "Families of Sex Offenders" what new dysfunctional mindsets these "families actually have". Lets take "Hurtingfamily" for an example. Her bitch of the day was having to go with her husband for a 3 hour drive to take a polygraph test @ 175.00. She added that he passed. But the bulk of her post and what seemed to really bother her was the fact she and her significant other were restricted from accessing PORN and I quote " anyways the guy told hub that some providers wont even allow you to have someone look up stuff . like normal stuff u know news and etc ,or even have a computer not meanign so meanign their loved one like wife or gf what ahve you the ohter person not on registry . . i told him well u tell them im not on probation and if my hub and i choose to look at sites together , where i do the looking and he just sits there and read stuff while i do the browseing whats the harm .. u know what i mena come off it .. to me if no body is lookign at bad stuff porn etc wahts the big old harm anyways"?? Whats the big old harm? Umm, well if one spends anytime on this pathetic site You would be hard-pressed to count all the comments Blaming PORN for their "tales of woe" along with scantily clad women, provocative TV shows and umm what else? Oh slutty dressed pre-teens. Yet "hurtingfamily" thinks since SHE isnt the one registered her "freedoms" have been compromised?? Its no secret extended family members can often be the "KEY" to successful re-integration for these convicts and often family members are told to be aware of "triggers" that may be detrimental to the offender. Hurtingfamily and hubby are living in rundown hotels pawning everything they own and hitting up Her family to stay afloat, but she is "pissed" she cant troll for porn? I dont give Hurtingfamily's hubby too much time on the outside.