Monday, May 26, 2014

and another "mother of the Year"?

Nwelsh218 writes: We haven't known each other very long. 2-3 months. No he hasn't had any grooming with my children, but hes not been around my children but 3 times. As far as "reoffending" he maintains his innocence. He was put away for ten years and has only been out for 1 1/2 years, He is going back for at least 20 months for failure to register an address. He hasn't had any other violations. The thing that bothers me the most are the lies. He lied about his name at first. I had to find out his convicted sex offender history on my own. He said it was a woman he knew who accused him of raping her, but then upon further research I discovered it was a child. He finally told the truth about what happened, but I don't know how to trust and believe someone who lied from the beginning. I love the guy. I really do. But I know in my family and circle of friends it wont be accepted. My best friend married a man who her best friend told her he raped her, she didn't believe her friend and now she finds out this ex husband, her oldest sons father, had molested her daughter for years. she didn't believe her friend she believed her husband. I am very torn. since hes going away for at least twenty months I have time to figure it out. I truly love him. I feel myself distancing myself though. My main priority is to protect my children. I don't think he is a bad man. But I cant wrap my head around the lies. Why not tell the truth from the beginning? He was afraid he would lose me. I feel like all the stuff he says could be a ploy to get into my life and be around my children when he gets out. But I don't want to think that way because I care about him and what if hes the real deal? What if he is the REAL DEAL??really?? I was hoping I could get advice from this support group as I don't have a lot of people who I can talk to. "Cant wait to hear the responses on this one"

1 comment:

Valigator said...

Couldnt help myself and we have mffan something or another posting :

I have been dating my now fiance for five years but only recently found out about him being an SO. I have to tell you, it changed NOTHING for me since I already loved him way too much to let something like this bother me. I learned so much about this whole topic, and I have to say that I am appalled by how stupid and narrow minded society can be. There is so much more than what the media "lies" about. Other countries are not nearly as prude and uneducated. I want to keep fighting for him and this cause as it has gotten to the point of ridiculousness. This mass hysteria has to end. I worry more about people who are shooting others (often innocent children in schools). These people are not on any registry, nor will they ever be, and they are the ones actually hurting children. I know they will have to wake up soon to see how little sense this hype about SOs makes.

crack me up 5 years and only recently found out he was an SO..I think we should make bank on this broad..