Sunday, September 23, 2012

More words of Wisdom from Daily Strength

One post indicated from the resident (pretend voodoo) doctor that they hoped I was reading their post. How can you not? Its like a train wreck you cant take your eyes off of.

The title of the forum was "for those married to child molesters"
Mystified123 wrote a very prolific expose' that left me "high fiving" her in relevation about relationships. In this post she sounded healthy and grounded. the link is http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/families-of-sex-offenders/discussions/messages/14970507

Needless to say the comments degenerated by these examples:
Mamabear: I dont believe this is a healthy post. It may cause someone to second guess themselves. In a marriage you shouldnt have the option to run for the hills! Now of course when sexual offens comes into play it is def a valid reason but no one sin is worse than another. (keeping in mind) they are talking about married to those who are (CHILD MOLESTORS).

Honest witness: post was especially disturbing with the ". I am the former spouse of the man who molested two of my children. I am still connected to him through our children and "all the good things we had". But I am so glad I am not married to him any more. Interestingly, now that my children are adults, the same two that were molested are "convicted sex offenders themselves".( now keep in mind I had my ass handed to me for intruding on their site and bringing up the fact the Government Grant VAWA was a mismanaged and under utilized) program that in premise should be aimed at (helping the abused) and yet no one on this forum knew about it.
Continued: Believe me it gets worse:

4 comments:

Valigator said...

TrustingtheMystery: the resident voodoo doctor proceeds to interject with her mentors were Buddist and the usual bullshit of non-judgement leads to healing.Then she uses her favorite "attachment patterns" as inserts.(not to dismiss early attachment) is bunk, its just her word of the day she reverts too and insinuates we must take all child molestors back to the critical ages of 1-3 and work from there. She goes on to quote the DaliLama and pretty much dismisses any repercussions for sick social behavor can be cured by "Love" not a 5x7 cell..(regardless of the crime) can you visualize it? Your local PD arresting a guy for raping and almost beating a woman to death and handing him flowers and a big hug at booking???

Valigator said...

Peekachu: I stay with my husband much the same way that was described by mama bear in regard to if my husband had terminal cancer. My choice would be to support him no matter what decision he made.Yes, because he molested a child, he broke our marriage vows. He did a horrible thing to that child and her family. Since he's been in jail ever since this rolled out, "he has no real idea of the actual consequences" of his behavior. Yes, his behavior was despicable. But human sexual behavior is very complex.( No its not that complex Peeky) we have laws that say you have to renew your tag for your car, its no different or more complex than NOT MOLESTING a CHILD). "She fails to equate the fact that society would have been better off if her husband did have terminal cancer and was already in the ground"

Valigator said...

Peekachu: (now this is disturbing) goes on to say "I think what happened with my husband is that is was so ego dystonic that he split that part of himself off. His offending behavior was completely out of character. But, yet at the same time, since he was born this way, he didn't know any different. I 'm not excusing what he did. I'm saying that he is not a monster. He is a product of a naturally occurring sexual orientation that collided with an intolerant and negative culture. Not to say that sex with children should ever be tolerated, but what should be tolerated is the concept that "pedophilia exists" simply because it does!

Pedophilia cannot be wished away. It cannot be cured because it is not a disease, but it can be healed. The healing is the reintegration of the split off part of self.

Mamabear: What I dont understand is why Mystified doesnt believe this sexual behavior cannot be "from birth". If someone is "born straight" or "born gay" as a natural sexual "hard wiring" than doesnt it stand to reason, or even a slight possibilty that pedophilia could be as well? Many do not "tolerate" homosexualness either but the difference comes down to consent and innocence. It is not acceptable for an adult to force themselves upon anyone let alone a child. these actions arent accepted but because of the strong force sex holds in our lives we end up w/adults that preform devious actions. I believe this behavior, such as others, has to be "trained away". You have to train yourself to stop biting your nails, you have to train yourself to not over spend, you have to train yourself to not snap at your children...all strong impulsive behaviors. (so let me get this straight) Mamabear thinks some adults are born with pedophilia and equates it with being born straight or gay) bet the Gay and Lesbian groups appreciate that analogy?? and her other words of wisdom is pedophilia must be untrained like Biting ones fingernails??? No wonder this broad hooked up with this freak, "birds of a feather"..

Valigator said...

One poster titled a forum stating this group "may not be what you think it is"..Oh how right she was.

The undertones of this group is obvious, they include pedophiles that interject how "draconian" American sex laws are and that sex is a natural and "loving expression of human beings" (oh they always insert the little caveat of "I am not advocating sex with children" but when you read between the lines, YES they ARE. Then you have the women who have been so conditioned by these freaks that even they start the mantra as mamabear above stated perhaps its is nature. Mamabear is another one who needs sterilizing and her own registry.