Wednesday, April 9, 2014
Do I tell my kids friends parents that my husband is a SO?
"""alwaysbyhisside" ask," My husband had to register this week and is not on probation. We have two girls ages 14 & 11 who live with us. I am wondering do we go and tell their friends parents that he is on the registry (his offense happened in 1990 when he was 18) ? My husband says that we just keep kids friends out of the house and have the girls do activities outside the home with friends; but a part if me wants to just get it out in the open and tell the parents that way if they search the site and find my husband on it they won't have any questions and won't assume that he is some kid of monster.
Any advice would help."
It's rather amazing that this woman actually had to ask this question. Since I am Banned from this site (families of sex offenders) I'll offer up my two cents here. If I was the parent of one of her children's friends and I was not made aware of his status? All hell would reign down. All too often I have read comments from this dysfunctional group that if the "neighbors were so concerned, they could find him on the registry" which in their screwed up minds alleviates them from all liability?? Of course on the other hand the registry in their screwed up minds "tells the world" of their status and should be abolished?? Typical, the registry is the "holy grail" when these misfits dont want to own up to their criminal convictions, buts its the "list from hell" on other days.
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I would go ballistic and not be responsible for my actions if this happeded to my family.
You wanted the stinking list...use the damn thing. He is NOT legally responsible to say anything. I agree with him though...just keep the friends out of the house. No need to put himself in a situation. Play it safe.
He was 18? Possibility is it was an otherwise-consensual situation with a girl under 18, possibly even the wife who is asking the question. There are guys on the registry who have been married to their victims for years and are raising families.
Yes there are, some, not many and more RARE than persons from certain groups want to portray. In fact the most vocal pro-offender groups want to use that scenario for all their descriptions of their crimes. I only wish those same groups would use their energies to actually "help" those particular offenders OFF the registry but thats an effort we will NEVER see.
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